​When we speak negatively about ourselves, it encourages others to speak negatively about themselves.

 Your words matter. 
 
How many times have you said, "I'm so fat, I need to lose weight" & your friend joins in by saying, "oh me too, I'm so fat, I hate (fill in the blank body part)." Or "I'm so stupid, I can't believe I did that again" & your friend goes along w the theme of how they were stupid in some way. 
 
Thoughts are just these floating abstract words. They can be truthful, or they can be false. Have you ever heard the phrase, "don't believe every thought you have"? Our own thoughts run rampant in our heads, and they can often speak lie after lie. For someone with depression or anxiety, their thoughts are down right pathological liars. These people are often told "oh you should meditate, that'll fix your problems."  The issue lies in the fact that when left with their thoughts to wonder, it can be a scary & dangerous place. 
 
How can I help this myself?
When we have a thought that is negative, 1st ask yourself, wait, is this true? Has someone that knows me & loves me told me this about myself? 2nd, ask yourself, if I were to say this thought out loud to someone who loves me, would they agree w this thought? 3rd. If you were told this same thought by someone you love & adore, what would your reaction be to them?
 
We are so highly critical of ourselves. Yet, far less of the ones we love. 
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If we were our own mothers, fathers, caretakers, how would we choose & want to nourish them? How could we support them? Love them?  Now go do that for yourself! <3
 
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